What if you could say one thing to the person who ruined your life?

spikezolo
#1. January 19th, 2009, at 5:35 AM.

jesus loves you

Simply Amanda
#2. January 20th, 2009, at 2:27 AM.

I would tell him ”Thank You”

i would say thank you because even though he walked out on your family,your family is still strong,

andreioi
#3. January 21st, 2009, at 11:53 PM.

I suggest that you should talk to him… not only you, but with your relatives… Jesus teaches us to forgive… yes, I know It’s hard to forgive… but… think about it…… think over the situation…
encourage him more despite of what he did…

God Bless you and your family…

Lady Jexie
#4. January 23rd, 2009, at 12:43 PM.

I would look in the mirror and say
“Yesterday is dead and gone and tomorrow’s out of sight.”

All I have is now
and it’s never too late … to be the person you want to be.

Doncaster
#5. January 24th, 2009, at 10:54 PM.

sir, (do not address as pop, dad or father)you actions of 10 years ago have put mum and my brothers through extremely difficult times during the last decade. i pity you but god has seen fit to punish you and you will now suffer from god’s vengeance, good bye for now maybe i will visit you again in 10 year time.

Sherica
#6. January 26th, 2009, at 6:50 AM.

I would tell him “thank you because of what you did it has made me who i am and i love that person and you are my father,its because of you i am on this earth and i love you for that and i for give you” he is dying let him die in peace not feeling alone and angry at himself and i know he is sorry. hope i helped.

Charcoal Pet
#7. January 27th, 2009, at 3:16 AM.

Wow, these are some crappy answers so far. Forgive blah blah, happy sky God cures all. Talk about delusional.

Here’s how I see it, take from it what you will. I would want to move on, and be done with him. Not having any feelings one way or another towards him.

I’d say something like,

“You ruined my life, the life of my family. I can forgive everything you’ve done, and forget it all as well. But as far as I’m concerned, although you’re still alive, I have no father. I do not want to ever see you, hear from you, or any sort of communication between you and my family again. Whatever bond we may have had, I’m cutting it off today. There is none of you in me. We are strangers. Goodbye forever.”

Anyways good luck.

Mirsaj
#8. January 28th, 2009, at 1:44 AM.

Your dad did something really wrong and I understand the hurt you must be feeling. A father is there to help, support and make sure his kids get everything they need in life, or at least everything he can provide. Unluckily, in his case, he was unable to provide. He just took what was supposed to be yours and turned his back.
But here is the fact, your dad was an addict. This makes him unable to function or reason as a normal person. It makes him selfish and capable of harm. It explains his neglect. I am not giving him any excuses but the fact is that addiction ruined his life.
I would think he had moments of regret when he wanted to fix things but just couldn’t… too late to turn back to you.. too late for him!

Now he is very sick, and you will regret this for the rest of your life if you do not go to him. Not to scold him, not to be super-religious about it, yet to face him, understand him and perhaps let him know he had a chance to see you and talk to you.
Visit him, listen to him, then based what he shows you, either find it in your heart to forgive him or just leave and never look back. At least you’ll have closure!
Good luck!

mIcHeLLe
#9. January 30th, 2009, at 7:20 PM.

I can relate to your situation. My stepfather was the same way, but I never really had a connection with him. But with everything that he would do to me and my siblings, my mother would still watch. I haven’t had a true conversation with my mother in… 3-4 years? And I’m only 15. I’m afraid to speak to my mother about it, so I just don’t. I need to. But if I could say something to her, I would try explaining to her what I feel through a letter, because that way, she wouldn’t be able to interrupt me or yell at me. If I could say something… I would say that I forgive her, and I love her still. I forgive her even though she may not even know what it is for.

okayplease
#10. February 1st, 2009, at 6:27 PM.

i’m sorry things didn’t work out
i’m sorry you didn’t care enough
i’m sorry you left
i’m sorry you hurt me
i’m sorry dad i’m sorry